I have lots of them today. Bear with me. Answer them if you can. Offer humor if you can.
1. Am I unreasonable to expect my almost 16 year-old daughter to be responsible for her own laundry? And to not let her go out in public with me if she is not clean and appropriately dressed? This is Leigh we're talking about-- my RAD/OCD/PTSD/Depression/BPD child, who consistently has to be sprayed down before we go somewhere because she smells bad.
2. Am I unreasonable to NOT allow my almost 17 year-old daughter share a bed behind closed doors with her girlfriend. (She's gay, so this is not a "just a friend," this a "we're dating" girlfriend.) I'm opposed to any sort of spend-the-nights since they are in HS and I don't care if you're straight or gay, it is not appropriate to spend the night with the person you're dating. My friend Katie, a lesbian, agrees with me, but she says she's so conservative she beats herself up in the parkinglot.
3. Am I unreasonable to expect my teenagers to complete basic housekeeping chores for the good of the family, even if they didn't personally make the mess in question? My theory is that you ate the damn food that I worked to pay for AND cooked, you can clean up the kitchen.
4. And along those lines, if I ask you to do something, and you don't do it or half-ass it, I reserve the right to tell you no to something you want done, just on the backscratching principle. Right?
5. Is it wrong that we're still waffling about adopting the babies? Is that a sign we shouldn't? Or a sign that for the first time in our adult lives, we're looking at something long and hard before jumping in?
6. Since Leigh has been off her meds, I have done a lot of thinking. Is it wrong that I plan to bully her into a birth control implant that she can't remove without pain and difficulty? Is it wrong that I am starting to fantasize about spiking her food with Prozac?
7. And am I wrong to be FURIOUS and HURT that bio-grandma called Danae's phone? This is a violation of our agreement to move at our speed on bio-grandma's part; and for Danae, a violation of the promise she made to NOT give her cell number to her bio-family.
That's all for now. Thanks.
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