Aloha, bloggerites! Whassup?
We just got back from a cross country road trip that lasted two weeks, so the blogging has been kinda sparse.
Here are some things I have learned, or experienced in the last few weeks...
Uncomfortable Personal Realization: I have become my mother.
It's not terrible, it's just that some of the things that annoy me most about her, are now how I most annoy my children.
Here are two examples.
When I yell my child's name, it means "personal appearance in front of me right now no matter what you were doing." I'm 38 years old, and when MY mom yells for me, she still expects me to show up. No matter that I'm feeding the NaNa with one hand and changing MoMo with the other. I do that to my kids and am just now seeing what a pain it is.
Also, there's the "if it's not cleaned my way, it's not cleaned" attitude.
I'm not a neat freak. But my mom is.
I think she might be an officer in the Neat Freaks of America Club.
Two weeks at her house went a long way, I think, in showing my teenagers where some of my deep-seated housework neuroses come from. Towel-folding is the best example. I am a towel-folding nazi. They must be done just so, or I lose it. I showed my daughters my mom's bathroom closet. Perfect order. Now they know.
Proof That No Matter How Much You Want Someone to Change, Gorillas Will Still Eat Bananas: The Gorilla of the Week award goes to Dawn. I asked Dawn and Dumbass to mow our yard while we were gone, offering to pay $50 for the job. Three doors down from us is the young college student who bird sat and fed the outdoor cats for us while we were gone. One week into the trip, I asked Dawn if they had been by to mow. She said they'd done it the day before. I asked Critter Sitter, and she said it hadn't been done. A friend of mine got her hubby to mow it for us the day before we got back. I asked Dawn about it tonight and she admitted to lying about having mowed it, and apologized. "I knew it was stupid to lie to you about it, that you'd know we didn't do it." I didn't bother to ask why she lied. It's just one more thing.
REALLY Uncomfortable Personal Realization: I think I might be too selfish or lazy or something to adopt the babies should we be given the chance. Let me 'splain. While on vacation, I tried really hard to NOT ask the teenagers to help with the babies. It was their vacation too, right? Which meant that I didn't get to go fishing much. I love fishing. No, I take that back. I love being on a boat, out on the water in the sun. Fishing is optional. Anyway, Nana is not a big fan of fishing, being on a boat, out on the water, in the sun. MoMo not only is not a fan, she is a member of the rebellion against such things--but this is the child who screams her way through bathtime.
Because Hubby hasn't had a vacation in five years, and because I get one every summer, I stayed off the boat all but two times. They got to boat nearly every day. And it pissed me off--not at hubby or the teens--but at the babies. Now stupid is that?? They can't help it that one is six months old and the other is mortified of all things having to do with water. But I spent too much of the vacation resentful of the fact that I couldn't do the things I wanted to because of the babies. That either says that at 38, I am still not mature enough to NOT be selfish about not getting my way, or maybe it was the sign I've been asking for when it comes to whether or not we should adopt. But every time I even think about them leaving, it brings tears to my eyes. Whuck is that??
Another problem is that next week, we're spending the week at the beach with my brother and one of my best friends. And I'm taking the teenagers and the babies. And I'm already resenting all the sunbathing, boogey-boarding and general cavorting I WON'T be getting to do because the babies will be there. I feel so childish, and I'm really embarrassed by it. And the irony is....
New Favorite Things: I never understood why otherwise sane adults would let a baby chew on their fingers. NaNa has turned into a drool monster, and spends hours gnawing on anything she can get her hands on. She has a nub of a tooth popping in, so I know that's what it is. However, today, she caught my pinky finger and gnawed on it for about an hour, and it was such a fascinating thing, watching her face work and change as she chomped away. And she bites hard.
Last night, we were taking Danae's girlfriend home, and I heard MoMo talking to herself. At 21 months, she was sitting in her car seat, reciting all the words she knew. MaMa, PaPa, DeeDee, Eee (Leigh), izzie (the dog), seat, cup, butt, diaper, head, hair, ears, eyes, nose, mouth, tongue, teeth, belly, arm, leg, elbow, knee, feet, toes, booty, eat, please, thank you, bless you, welcome, hello, bye-bye.... the list goes on, but that's how she was entertaining herself. And while she's naming the parts she's pointing them out on herself. New cutest thing ever. Plus she's gotten conversational enough that she's fun to babble with. She's even used a big girl potty and big girl toilet paper once. And she points out when she needs to be changed.
IGiving NaNa a bath is just delicious. She lies on the bottom of the tub and kicks and splashes and smiles and laughs, and the thought of giving that up just slices my soul.
Just Clean it Dammit: I got up with the babies at 7:30 this morning and had the teenagers up and working by 9 to clean the house. "Why do we have to do this?" Because it's dirty and it needs to be cleaned and I'm tired of nagging you so no cell phone computer or tv until we're done. Pissed 'em off, but got 'em moving. I'm such a motivator.
Cell Phone Conundrum: I am trying to decide what kind of phone I want. I have some money put back for a fun phone, and I've narrowed it to three: the Samsung Jack, the Blackberry Bold (with camera) or the Iphone. I am desperately hard on all things mechanical, so I'm desperately scared of breaking an expensive toy. Everyone keeps telling me the Iphone, but only if I can get the old version and not the new one, or the Blackberry. But the Jack is the least expensive, and will do everything I want. What to do, what to do?
Excruciatingly Painful Soul Searching--This one requires a whole other post, but here's the rhetorical, "get you in the mood" question: Have you ever behaved in a way that you have been absolutely convinced was right, and after many years, found yourself second-guessing the behavior? That's where I am right now, and it's rocking me to the core.
Among the best vacation moments: Swimming in Lake Michigan. Yes, the water is FREAKING COLD, but there is something amazing about swimming in ten foot deep water that you can clearly see the bottom of--it's bracing and refreshing and every summer, it rejuvenates me.
Also, with the same outcome (the whole refreshing and rejuvenating thing) I got to hang with THE Claire Montgomery MD, of Car Dancing fame. You see, we were acquaintances back when big bangs were not just theories in a text book, and we connected through a social networking site, discovered how much we have in common, and are now dangerously close to becoming, dare I say it? Friends? I don't use that term lightly, as I have very few people in my life that I consider friends. But I'm pretty sure she is one of them, or soon will be.
Claire is wicked funny, has her own house-full-of-crazy-she-didn't-give-birth-to, and the same sort of "love me, love my family" mentality. And her blog rocks. Two of my favorites by her are here and here. I'll see you again in October, and don't forget... we pinky promised!! (I'll blog about that later. Pinky promise.)
New Motto: I found an over-priced sign in a gift store on vacation that read "Don't let your yesterdays ruin your tomorrows." I didn't buy it, but I plan to use that saying A LOT in the coming year or so.
Upcoming events... This week, we'll be dusting off beach stuff, making photo albums, running a million errands, working ahead in the first class of my doctoral program, reading stuff for lesson plans for school (my job school, not school I'm attending) which starts way too soon, and trying to pare down the immense load of STUFF around my house. I have a basket for craigslist and freecycle-- I just have to find the time to start posting!!
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