Saturday, May 15, 2010

Did I Lie?

So when Danae told me she was gay, I told her I didn't care and that I would be just fine walking through the mall with her and her girlfriend hold hands. 

That happened today.  And if I am honest with myself, I was uncomfortable. And I don't know why.

I really don't care if she's gay. And I really don't care if the whole world knows.  But when I saw that they were holding hands, I did a double take. Now why did I do that?

And when we ran into one of my coworkers, I turned to introduce Danae and Annette, and they had disappeared. I asked her about it later, and she said she didn't want it to be an issue for me at work.  I told her that I didn't care. No one I work with is perfect or has perfect lives.  If they think less of me or my family because one (or more) of my kids are gay, they can get right the hell over it and kiss my large pale butt in the process. 

But why was I uncomfortable?  I am really bothered by this. 

Guh.  What the heck?


  1. Maybe because it's not what you expected when you thought about her love life before you found out she was gay? Parents always have this idea of what their children's lives will look like when they are older and when real life is different than that 'dream' it takes them a little while to adjust. Just an idea... Don't judge your feelings too harshly, you're handling the situation so great, most gay teens couldn't ask for anything better!

  2. I think if we'd had her longer that might be dead on, but we've only had Danae for about a year and a half. I've always kind of suspected she was at least bi, so her official announcement wasn't a big surprise.

    Part of my discomfort might be have been because it almost felt like a test. "If we hold hands and walk through the mall, is mom gonna flip, or is she really going to be okay?"

    But if that's the hardest test we have with this daughter, I'll be very happy.


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